BreakPoint: Your Desires Don’t Define You

Emily Thomes’ Story

When someone states that he or she was “born this way,” maybe the most biblical response is, “me too.”

The Huffington Post is all in a huff over a stupendous viral video about homosexuality and the Gospel—a video that’s racked up nearly 2 million views. Created by the Christian media ministry Anchored North, this production gives every appearance of being just another “coming out” story by a lesbian woman.

Emily Thomes tells of how it “went terribly” when she revealed her first romantic relationship with a woman to her father. In her Southern lilt, she describes the conviction at age twenty that if anyone in the Bible Belt was truly a Christian, they would approve of her lifestyle. “If not,” she says, “then you were legalistic and you needed to re-read what God was really about: ‘Judge not.’”

Then, at twenty-two, Thomes was invited to attend a ladies’ Bible study. Certain the women would reject her, she gave it the old college try. But something strange happened. Thomes was not shunned by these Christian women. As a result, she began asking herself questions: “What if it’s all true? Are you sure this is who you are?”

She turned to the Bible to see if her ideas about what real Christians believe were accurate, and soon found herself in the sin list of 1 Corinthians 6. Paul’s promise of judgement, she says, scared her. “I realized I was in the ‘will not enter the kingdom of God’ lineup.” And then she read verse 11: “And such were some of you. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified.”

The freedom promised in this verse ultimately opened her eyes. “I could hold onto my sin and reject God,” she says, “or I could turn to Him. All the debt that I racked up living like I had lived didn’t have to be mine…”

Predictably, HuffPo slams Thomes’ story as a commercial for the “scientifically discredited and flat-out lethal idea that gay, lesbian, or bisexual people can change their sexual orientation if they pray hard enough.” They quote one so-called “queer Christian writer and pastor” who insists “a robust, Christ-centered” theology teaches that God accepts every lifestyle, that He is “all gracious, all merciful, and extends forgiveness and love to absolutely everyone.”

The irony is that Thomes would agree that God extends forgiveness and love to all. The difference is that her idea of forgiveness involves repentance, and being born again.

People regularly confront her with the refrain of the LGBT movement: “I was born this way.” Her reply? “Yeah, me too. You’re not born with right affections. That’s why Jesus had to come. You’re feeling a desire for sin just proves you need grace like me.”

This answer is more than just a good one. It’s the definitive response from a Christian worldview to those who insist sexual desires define them.

What Thomes’ story so beautifully portrays and what proves to be such a stumbling block to the editorial staff at the Huffington Post is a little something called the Gospel. It’s the same message preached by other disciples called out of the gay lifestyle, like Rosaria Butterfield, who no longer identify themselves by their desires, but in Christ.

Secular news outlets want to associate this with so-called “conversion therapy,” the once popular practice of trying to clinically “cure” homosexuality. But as Thomes says, the transformation we undergo in Christ isn’t from gay to straight. Despite being happily married in the Lord today, she reminds viewers that “God calls us not to heterosexuality but to holiness.”

The central lie of the LGBT movement and the sexual revolution is that our sin and our desire for it are our identity—even something in which to take pride. But the good news of Christianity is that in Jesus, we can have a new identity. We need no longer be enslaved to our fallen passions. We were made for something better.


Your Desires Don’t Define You: Emily Thomes’ Story

Click here to view the video of Emily Thomes’ testimony. And continue to pray, as Emily reminds us, that Christ’s call to holiness will be heard and responded to by all.




Love is Love, Youtube video
  • Anchored North | December 28, 2017
Viral Video Claims People Can Stop Being Gay If They Pray Hard Enough
  • Carol Kuruvilla | Huffington Post | January 3, 2018

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  • Scott

    “I was born this way.” Her reply? “Yeah, me too. You’re not born with right affections. That’s why Jesus had to come. You’re feeling a desire for sin just proves you need grace like me.”

    I too was born with wrong affections… I too need Jesus.

    “This answer is more than just a good one. It’s the definitive response from a Christian worldview to those who insist sexual desires define them.”

    Yes. And this response is definitive no matter what sinful desires corrupt our minds, bodies and souls… sexual or other.

    Thank you for this wonderful article!

  • Just One Voice


    “This is who I am” and any of its cousin statements make me chuckle and shake my head. I was born with epilepsy, supposedly had a learning disability, and so much more. People are VERY surprised when they hear about my past.

    This is who I am, pfff! To that, I say, “This is who Jesus is!”

  • Jordan Smith

    “I was born [insert here], that’s why Jesus had to come”

    I am a sinner, that’s why Jesus had to come. I too need Jesus. I too am called to holiness.

    The debate has too often been turned into a “us against them” mentality, and people have justly accused us (Christians) of hypocrisy. When the reality is that we are all broken by sin, no one is better than the other, we all need the same grace. At that point, the conversation changes from hetero/homosexuality to holiness… And that is when Christ can begin the transformation in us all.

    Thank you very much for sharing this article with us.

  • zonie6044

    One irony in all this is the HuffPost writer is a “religion reporter” who apparently knows nothing of the Gospel, and certainly not its redeeming power and purpose.

  • Doug

    The view of the Huffington Post that there is no scientific evidence that people can and do change their sexual orientation is just false. In our recent book, Somewhere Under the Rainbow, we document many long term studies that clearly show people can and do change, sexual orientation is NOT like eye color or skin color.

  • Doug

    There are a number of documented research studies that show that people do in fact change their sexual orientation. It is not like eye color or skin color.

  • Emily Thomes

    I appreciate the piece, brother!

  • George Burrell

    It is still a big step to advocate that what seems to be working for Emily will work to the advantage of anybody else. This not mainstream best practice. We must always compare advice based on old writings with experience and modern professional consensus.

  • NurseMax

    Least ye forget…The bible speaks against homosexualty less than a handful of times, while the bible mentions we love one another more times than one can count…so which is more important?