The Point: The Truth about Lying

Should you try to raise a liar? For the Colson Center, I’m John Stonestreet with The Point.

Recently, the New York Times ran the headline, “Is Your Child Lying to You? That’s Good.” Parents, the author says, shouldn’t be upset about their young fibbers because studies show that kids who lie are more intelligent and “socially adept” than those who don’t.

And for children who aren’t quite so good at lying, parents can “speed up the process” through training exercises. Lying is good for your brain, claims the author, so the sooner kids start lying, the better.

I wish I were making that up, but I’m not. The author’s argument is fully consistent with a worldview that sees cognitive ability as the highest quality we should value and cultivate in children.

But cognitive intelligence isn’t the only kind. There’s also moral intelligence—knowing the right thing to do in a morally charged universe. And there’s relational intelligence—knowing how best to live in relationship with others, for their good, not just our own.

You see, “studies” and “research,” they also reflect worldview. Always keep that in mind.


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  • Jordan Smith

    What the research ignores is that the same cognitive intelligence is manifested in creativity and imagination such as reading, writing, art, crafts, and others. They have the same training effect, while reinforcing other traits and virtues.

    It is interesting that the New York Times and other news outlets have (rightfully) gone after public figures who make it a habit of lying… But if it shows good cognitive function and social aptitude, there is no reason to decry it, but it should be praised… But Truth matters and integrity and honesty are the only foundation for health, stable relationships, not white lies that create something artificial.