John Stonestreet: Human Sexuality and Gender Identity (Part 1)

Today we present part one of a talk John Stonestreet delivered at University Assembly in Colorado Springs as part of its lecture series for college students. John’s topic: Human Sexuality and Gender Identity.

John tackles three principal claims of the sexual revolution. First, that sex, marriage, and babies are separable; second, that men and women are interchangeable, and finally, that human dignity derives from sexual autonomy.


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  • gladys1071

    actually sex and babies are separable, otherwise women in menopause and infertile would NOT be able or desire to have sex. If sex was all about reproduction we would only mate during fertile seasons like animals that go in heat only during certain times of the year.

    The fact that humans can have sex during fertile and infertile times means that sex and reproduction are separate. A woman can and desires sex even during pregnancy, what would be the purpose to have sex during pregnancy?

    Lets stop with the harping of sex= babies that is not the case 100% of a person’s life or possible due to biology.

    God in his wisdom allows for human beings that are infertile to be able and desire sex, so God separated the functions not humans.

    • Scott

      “God in his wisdom allows for human beings that are infertile to be able and desire sex, so God separated the functions not humans.”

      I find it interesting that humans seek to control whether or not they get pregnant through various forms of contraception when that control naturally belongs to God… It’s almost like we are trying to remove God from the process?

      • gladys1071

        I was refuting the idea that sex always = babies, which it does not. By the way having sex during infertile times is a form of avoiding babies it is called NFP. One gets to enjoy the sex, and not get pregnant, i have used such method succesfully.

        Are you advocating ONLY having sex during fertile times like animals do?

        I also find interesting that we try to avoid death by using anti-biotics and other medical treatments, isn’t that a form of trying “to remove God from the death process”?

        • Scott

          “Are you advocating ONLY having sex during fertile times like animals do?”

          I only advocate the words of Jesus.

          …and death is not from God. According to the Bible, it is a direct result of our sin. Our trust is that Jesus has defeated death and someday we will be restored eternally. That is the good news of the gospel! : – )

          • gladys1071

            Jesus did not address this issue at all. Tell me where Jesus said anything about birth control or how many children people should have?

          • Scott

            “Jesus did not address this issue at all. Tell me where Jesus said anything about birth control or how many children people should have?”

            No, you’re right he didn’t… most likely because it was not an issue in those days.

            He talked about making idols and placing them before God though. Jesus also talks about morality and specifically sexual morality. After converting from atheism to Christianity and reading God’s word in the Bible, I personally choose to error on the side of caution. It makes sense to me that God wouldn’t want me to separate something He connected in the first place. Don’t get me wrong, sex is great… and sexual pleasure is even talked about as good in the Old Testament. But if I seek out sexual pleasure only and decide to separate it from having children, then I make that pleasure an idol above God by removing part of His formula. God says in the Bible that He loves his (created) people more than any other part of His creation. Because life is so precious to Him, it is not a stretch to think He might have created sexual pleasure as a reward for creating life. There are many hints in scripture that point us to this line of thinking. I cannot find any Biblical support for the separation of sex and children?

            I do not condemn or judge (or even dislike) you for not having children… again, I only advocate the words spoken by Jesus in the Bible. I can only encourage others by pointing them towards those words.

          • gladys1071

            thank you for finally answering my question partially.

            Thank you for admitting that Jesus did not address this issue, and because he did not, it is an issue of Christian freedom whether a couple chooses or not to have children. Having sex for pleasure is not making an idol, it is enjoying the goods that God created.

            Why would you eat a delicious piece of chocolate cake, you eat it for the pleasure not the nutrients, is that making an idol of food?

          • gladys1071

            Death is natural, if you have a problem with death take it up with God. If we were meant to live forever in these bodies, we would not die.

            Why would you want to thrwart death, or why would you want to defy gravity by flying in an airplane?

          • Delgore

            Again as Scott said, God had nothing to do with death so no need to take it up with him. Yes death is a part of life now but before the 1st sin it did not exist. We can’t take it up with Adam and Eve and the point would be mute anyway. It’s a done deed, no turning back now.

          • gladys1071

            God most assuredly had something to do with death. He is the one that said that the punishment was death for disobedience. God could have prescribed a different punishment but he did not.

            He did not punish king David with death for what he did, but he did say the child would die from the union with Bathsheba, that was God’s perogative.

            Again read your bible, God is the one that prescribes the punishments, death being the one that we will all experience.

          • Scott

            God gives life and allows death… he does not administer death but rather allows it. The Bible says death will be defeated by God in Revelations.

          • Scott

            “Death is natural, if you have a problem with death take it up with God. If we were meant to live forever in these bodies, we would not die.”

            But this is not what the Bible says about death. We are made in God’s image and God is eternal, so it is natural for us to desire eternal life. Death is a consequence of our sin. Eternal life is offered us through Jesus, who did not sin and defeated death.

            “Therefore, just as sin came into the world through one man, and death through sin, and so death spread to all men because all sinned” -Romans 5:12

            “For the wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ Jesus our Lord.” -Romans 6:23

            “Truly, truly, I say to you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life. He does not come into judgment, but has passed from death to life.” -John 5:24

          • gladys1071

            Thank you for not answering my question.

            You completely evaded my question. Tell me where exactly Jesus addressed the issue of sex and fertility and whether married couples should have sex or not during fertile times?

            Tell me a scripture where Jesus address how many children a couple should have?

            Stop quoting me scriptures that don’t address this issue.

          • Scott

            I did?

            You asked me: “I also find interesting that we try to avoid death by using anti-biotics and other medical treatments, isn’t that a form of trying “to remove God from the death process”?”

            I answered your fertility question in another thread… you ask me there too.

            I do not dislike you just because we disagree. I’m only offering a different perspective.

  • gladys1071

    You know what is interesting, by Christians advocating for people to only have sex for procreation, you are lowering humanity to be like animals. Animals only have sex for reproduce, God created animals to have sex for reproduction only. God made humans to have sex for pleasure AND reproduction.

    Why are you calling for human being to act like animals?

    Again somebody answer me why humans are able to have sex while infertile and while being pregnant and still experience pleasure? what is the point?

    • Delgore

      For now I’m going to point out one correction. Have you never seen a male dog sexually attacking anything that they can get around? Stuff animals, pillows, your leg and many other items are their targets. They are not doing it for reproduction. They are doing it for pleasure.

      • gladys1071

        they do it following an instinct that God CREATED in them.

        So again, why does not somebody answer my question, why did God not just create us to have sex during fertile times and only during a certain season?

        I find it interesting that nobody has answered my question directly, and or have evaded completely.

        Why is it that women can still enjoy and have sex even during pregnancy and or past childbearing age, even in old age?

  • Timothy D Padgett

    There will be a Part Two to this Podcast coming later today.

    Thanks to you all for your contributions to this important conversation. However, as this discussion seems to have come to an impasse, we will be shutting down the comments from here on.

    Timothy D Padgett
    Managing Editor, BreakPoint.org.