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The Party Line No Such Thing as Ex-GayBy: Eric Metaxas|Published: June 6, 2012 7:57 AM Should Christians try to help homosexuals who want to change their sexual orientation? Why is that even a question? Stay tuned to BreakPoint. Listen Now | Download
Two weeks ago I attended the memorial service for Chuck Colson at the National Cathedral. After the service, I spoke with Patty Colson, Chuck's wife of 48 years, and I asked her if she had any advice for me for doing BreakPoint. She said, “Do what Chuck did — read the New York Times.” Of course I do read the New York Times because it is a great resource for teaching worldview — because most of the time it perfectly illustrates the opposite of the Christian worldview. For instance, the Times recently ran a fawning article about a psychiatrist named Robert Spitzer. Spitzer played a big role in the American Psychiatric Association's politically charged decision in the early 1970s to drop homosexuality from its manual of mental disorders. Spitzer became a hero in the gay community. In 2003, however, Spitzer decided to investigate the claims of people who had gone through some form of reparative therapy. The results were explosive. As Spitzer recalled, “The majority of participants gave reports of change from predominantly or exclusively homosexual orientation before therapy to a predominantly or exclusive heterosexual orientation in the past year.” Predictably, the gay lobby got very upset. They attacked the study's methodology, how the results were interpreted by others, and the morality of doing such a study in the first place. But now, as told in the Times article, Spitzer is backing down. He says that when a journalist told him he had undergone reparative therapy at the urging of his parents, and that the therapy had “delayed his self-acceptance as a gay man,” Spitzer decided to apologize for a study that he now considers fatally flawed — because, he said, “there was no way to determine if the subject's accounts of change were valid.” Of course, there was never any chance the gay lobby was going to accept Spitzer's study — no matter how well designed it was. They are too heavily invested in the claim that people are “born gay” and cannot possibly change their orientation. And if the Times writer Benedict Carey had wanted to cover this story fairly, perhaps he could have made some effort to track down former patients who were happy with the counseling or therapy that they had undergone — men who had seen their same-sex attractions diminish. There are plenty of them, as my friend, psychiatrist Jeffrey Satinover, notes in his book “Homosexuality and the Politics of Truth.” Satinover writes, “Since the professional normalization of homosexuality, we no longer hear of the many successful programs that continue to 'cure' homosexuality nor of the deeply moving stories of those who have successfully negotiated this difficult passage.” While the debate over how many people will benefit from such therapy will doubtless continue, we’ve got to be clear on the biblical position about human sexuality, and that is that God intended it for the blessing of a man and a woman within marriage and for the procreation of children; and that all sexual activity (hetero- and homosexual) that is outside of marriage is outside of God’s will. And we and our churches should be offering love and support to anyone who is struggling in this area. I hope you'll read Dr. Satinover's book. It is informative, compassionate — and it’s a great resource for those who want the truth about homosexuality. Come to BreakPoint.org, click on this commentary, and we’ll link you to it. Because while the New York Times says that it gives us all the news that's fit to print, when it comes to covering success stories that back up the Christian worldview, all too often the truth itself becomes a culture-war casualty.Further Reading and Information
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Comments:
SB1172 does not “criminalize those who offer information on ex-gay ministries,” though I'm sure that sentiment exists. It is aimed at licensed therapists. Its ethos is centered in (politically driven) concerns about mental health professionals who provide reorientation therapy, i.e., therapy making sexual orientation change (presumed to be a 180-degree turn) a desired or hoped-for outcome for clients who are minors (under 18).
I believe NARTH is correct is saying that SB1172 “inaccurately represents the science on SOCE” (sexual orientation change efforts). If you want to see more on the bill itself, visit http://leginfo.legislature.ca.gov/faces/billNavClient.xhtml?bill_id=201120120SB1172.
As for analyzing it, I highly recommend Dr. Mark Yarhouse’s website/blog, Limning the Psyche (http://psychologyandchristianity.wordpress.com). Yarhouse is a highly respected Christian clinical psychologist with a master’s degree in theology. He is the co-author of “Ex-Gays? A Longitudinal Study of Religiously-Mediated Change in Sexual Orientation.”
Yarhouse gives his well-thought-out perspective on SB1172 here: http://psychologyandchristianity.wordpress.com/2012/05/10/on-legislating-around-the-complexities-of-clinical-practice.
His most recent blog post is “Biblical Scholarship on Homosexuality.” That one will be an informative read for many who are seeking to apply a Christian worldview to this controversial cultural dilemma. It also will lead readers to Dr. Robert Gagnon, a respected biblical scholar who has written extensively on homosexuality.
We Christians do ourselves no favors by living in the echo chamber of hearsay and naive diatribes on this or any important cultural concern. I find the misinformation being passed around highly frustrating. And the gay lobby predictably uses these missteps to further muddy the waters and paint evangelical Christians as simpletons. The shoe, unfortunately, fits too many times.
Thank you, Eric et al, for seeking to paint a more accurate picture for followers of Breakpoint. This is the mother of all cultural dilemmas. I know.
On a related note, I learned of some disturbing news out of California. NARTH reports how lawmakers are considering bill SB 1172, which will criminalize those who offer information on ex-gay ministries. Even parents could be punished by this bill:
http://narth.com/2012/04/narth-statement-on-californis-sb-1172-sexual-orientation-change-efforts/
Sadly, this bill makes sense if you believe that homosexuality is innate like skin color. Ironically, President Obama's endorsement of "gay marriage" how deeply Black people are hurt and offended by the comparison as explained below:
http://pfox.org/african_americans.html
That is the nature of sin, which causes you not only harm to yourself but also harm, directly or indirectly, to others.
Having once been a very adamant gay identified man...who believed I was born gay...and then through a radical encounter with God knew it was time to figure out His direction and my true identity. I am thankful for the COUNTLESS men and women who walked this journey before me, who spoke truth, love, compassion and reality to me during the process.
Now...my wife and I both get to talk about the process of restoration with countless others. Why? To give hope to others...who like me had no clue that you could ever be transformed. It doesn't mean you will never struggle, but everyone struggles! The reality is who am I and who is God in that struggle!
Oh ya...and Debbie is legit...her husband and her are doing GREAT work for the Lord.
It's no secret that my work and words have earned me some harsh slap-downs from certain cultural elites. But other folks have been gracious and have read the book and/or other related things I have written with an open mind and heart.
I've had many conversations (some were more like debates before God grew more grace in me) with folks from all over the map — gay-identified Christians and non-Christians, gay-affirming Christians and non-Christians, "ex-gays" or former strugglers (some who have seen their same-sex attractions eliminated and others who haven't), "ex-ex-gays" who have felt the brunt of cliché Christianity and remain hurt by it, and those who are just plain confused about the whole topic. The "topic" is not going away, and is only growing more important for us to grasp.
God is calling me in another direction now (with my husband), as our hearts are broken over the state of marriage and marriages today, inside the Church as well as outside. I am so thankful for Chuck Colson's legacy, especially for the clarity of The Manhattan Declaration. We get to disciple men and women of all ages as they prepare for marriage or wherever they are in the journey. It's a small beginning, but we love this work. I will always stand ready to break the "spiral of silence" when our culture reels from confusion over homosexuality, if God calls me to do so. I hope others can learn to do the same.
For others - from the Amazon book description:
"While Christians have wrestled for centuries with the question of why God allows certain kinds of pain and suffering, the past few decades have seen a shift in thinking that has decoupled homosexuality from this track. Today, growing numbers of Christians are beginning to view homosexuality as a benign human variable created by God, presumably to bring more color and diversity to His world, rather than a unique “school” for spiritual growth. Somehow, they have managed to redefine what served for millennia as ironclad evidence for the God-designed complementarity of the sexes. In preaching for love and acceptance—not merely an understanding or tolerance—of gays and lesbians, these social engineers have instead pronounced the ultimate unloving sentence on them. They have denied them the very truth that would allow them to be the image bearers, wholly, of God that they were intended to be."
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0967628962/ref=kinw_rke_rti_1
The phrase "rather than a unique 'school' for spiritual growth" is well put! One of the speakers in Eric's book, _Socrates in the City_, (get the audible version!!!) states that since God is all-loving, all-knowing, all-good *and* allows suffering in our lives, then we must need suffering to get the attention of us fools to draw us out of the wilderness and back to God. Debbie, thanks for pointing out to the Church to what sexual identity struggles are: another school of suffering God uses to develop our growth and maturity. Jesus was compassionate and so must we be.
Spitzer was the gay lobby's somewhat-reluctant hero when he led the charge to remove homosexuality from the DSM. He was threatened by gay activists even before he undertook his controversial study, which the professional community refuses to retract today, despite pressure from activists to do so and Spitzer's own newfound political correctness.
Yes, those of us who have seen our same-sex attractions greatly lessened or eliminated altogether through various kinds of therapy and/or faith-based recovery group work do exist. Many are reluctant to speak out because of blatant personal attacks and the general discomfort with the topic among the public.
For what it's worth, I have authored a book, "Post-Gay? Post-Christian?: Anatomy of a Cultural and Faith Identity Crisis" (2011), that covers a wide range of cultural/worldview/church issues related to this topic. It was a huge undertaking, researched and written over a nearly five-year span. It has been my hope that it would open the eyes of Christians to what this cultural and faith crisis is all about, while giving them a compassionate lens into the suffering that folks like me have gone or go through. The Church needs to be challenged in this area since so many Christians easily wink at other sexual sins — and they are many — but are ready to go to battle stations over homosexual sin.
Feel free to Google me or the book. I'm legit. This blog has linked to my work in the past. And thanks for the timely blog posts/Breakpoint commentaries.