BreakPoint This Week
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BreakPoint This Week: Why Women are Losing at Sex By: Shane Morris|Published: August 3, 2012 12:00 AM John Stonestreet interviews Mark Regnerus, Associate Professor of Sociology, University of Texas, about how the economics of sex disadvantage women. Listen Now | DownloadThe sexual brokenness that has overtaken our culture has done tremendous damage to our country, its families, and even its economy. But perhaps no one group has been affected more than women. During this week's interview, we hear from Mark Regnerus, author of the book "Premarital Sex in America," to discuss what's happened and what we can do in response. God created human sexuality, and when it's properly expressed in the marriage of one man and one woman for life, it's a wonderful thing. But something has gone terribly wrong in our culture, and the results have been evident, especially in what Mark Regnerus calls "sexual economics."
Mark Regnerus, Associate Professor of Sociology, University of Texas
The issue, he says, comes down to supply and demand. One upon a time, women were in control. Men, like always, wanted sex. And most women placed a very high price on it — namely marriage. Thus, sex was "expensive," in social terms, creating an environment prime for commitment and family, and hostile toward infidelity and premarital relations. But with the advent of birth control and the increasing education and economic capabilities of women, the balance of power tipped. While Regnerus is careful to note that neither of these innovations is necessarily bad, he encourages us to admit the sociological fact that women with protection against pregnancy and poverty are less dependent on men and marriage. But far from empowering women, this "protection" has proved a source of endless frustration and brokenness for our culture's daughters. Why? According to Regnerus, it's because "sex is just cheap now." With "hookups" and serial monogamy taking the place of lifelong covenants, men don't have to commit in order to receive sex. Nowadays, they can get a girl in bed without the price they would once have paid, and so the demand for marriageable women has plummeted. Meanwhile, men have found themselves in higher demand than ever. According to Regnerus, even a mediocre man with a poor work ethic and no desire to marry can often enter sexual relationships today, because women have become desperate. Add pornography into the mix, he says, and women don't stand a chance. The only way to turn this around, Regnerus believes, will be to rebuild a culture in which marriage is not only more possible, but prized by both sexes, and encouraged by the older generations. It also means combating the factors which caused this power shift in the first place, by showing young people the tragic devastation caused by pornography and sex without strings. As we finish our four-part series on sexual brokenness at the Colson Center, John Stonestreet, Eric Metaxas, T. M. Moore and others offer more solutions to this kind of sexual brokenness in our culture. The job of the Church, now more than ever, is to show teens and young adults that there is no alternative to God's plan for sex. Only then can we turn the economics of sex back in women's favor — something Regnerus says is better for us all. Learn More...
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Pastors, Sunday School teachers and any person who is in a leadership position at a church needs to make sure they explicitly spell out to the people they are leading what the Bible teaches. This is NOT just a youth or singles problem, it needs to be addressed to young and old.
All single women know that if they do not provide sex, their chances of marrying a "christian" man is in the toilet. Spiritual talk and rationalizing does not change this reality, when according to other studies, 60 percent of the evangelical pastors don't believe premarital sex is wrong. We need to pray for the single women, because if they decide to not participate in premarital sex, most will not marry and the church will have to care for a large number of women without families and children to care for them in their old age - a new type of "widowhood."