According to Huffington Post blogger Pauline Gaines, if high school students got more education on family psychology, divorce rates may drop. If students took classes on mapping emotional and family conditions between couples, they may hold off on marrying the wrong person.
She’s got a point. Impulsively marrying because we are “in love” is a bad idea. But looking more deeply at the other person is still missing a huge cultural blind spot: we have forgotten what marriage is actually for. And Gaines misses this too. It’s not just whether they are the right person for me, it’s whether we are the right people for marriage.
Because marriage is not just about happiness. It’s the foundational institution of every society, the proper context in which families are formed, and the next generation formed as citizens.
Learning about emotional baggage is good, but we need to know why, if and how we’ll stick it out no matter what. And that comes when we have a vision for marriage that’s bigger than us. For ThePointRadio.org, I’m John Stonestreet.