If parents don't set a good example, how can their children learn to flourish? To put it differently, in their quest to help their children, are some parents hurting them by being over-involved?
Case in point: Organizers of an Easter egg hunt cancelled festivities this year because parents were out of hand. Wanting to give their children "an edge" over other children, parents were racing out in front and finding eggs for their egg hunter.
There is a term for this phenomenon: helicopter parents. Parents are incessantly hoovering over their children to ensure their children beat everyone else.
Besides showing poor sportsmanship, these parents create other problems for their children. If the children aren't allowed to try and fail, how many of them will fail to develop the curiosity and perseverance necessary for life?
Not allowing children the thrill of creating and really achieving was brought home to me recently. My grandson is a Cub Scout. A few months ago, each member built a pinewood derby car to race. The parent was to use the dangerous woodcutting tools, but the scout was supposed to do the other work like drawing and painting. At the race, it was apparent that there was a difference between the kids who'd done the "other" work, and those whose parents did all the work.
I wonder how many would-be artisans, inventors, and so on are being stymied by their parents' aggressive competitive drive. Will they learn to overcome momentary failure in order to find success?