Though I haven't followed his career closely at all, I realize Mark Driscoll is a pastor who's well liked and respected, including by many here, and that I risk raising a firestorm by criticizing his words. But this video that he and his wife made about stay-at-home dads, which I found over at The Line, disturbs me. I'm sure their intentions were good. But to me, it looks as if they took a Bible verse out of its context in Paul's letter -- not to mention stripping it of its cultural context -- in order to make their suggestion that stay-at-home dads are being lazy, irresponsible, unmanly, and disobedient to the point that the church may need to discipline them.
Parents who make the effort to have one parent stay at home with the kids, even in an unconventional way, are doing their family, and their society, a great service, often at great cost to themselves. I'm at a loss to understand how such an arrangement could be taken to mean that a father isn't providing for his family.
And frankly, I think that Grace Driscoll's words about what would happen if her husband stayed home with the kids don't display the respect for husbands and fathers that she says she's advocating. Again, I'm sure her intentions were honorable and she was trying to inject a little levity into the discussion, but to me, those words sound much more like the pop culture's flippant dismissal of dads than a biblical understanding of their role and their significance. Yes, men and women are different, but does that mean that there are no dads out there capable of nurturing their young children? Not in my experience.
What do you think of what the Driscolls are saying here?